I was reviewing one of my daughter's assignments that she needed to complete for her journalism class. For the assignment, she needed to give her definition of a 'woman'; as I read through the assignment, she gave your general descriptions of a woman's inner and outer appearance. But, it is what I read when I came towards the end of the paper, that captured my attention. She had referenced me, her mother as her definition of a woman. As I write this post this morning. I want to take my time; especially since the devil tried everything in his power this morning to block me from getting this out ... he is a Liar!
In her own words she defined a woman as; having wisdom, loving the Lord with all of her heart, loving her husband and children and sacrificing for them, and being strong. She said "that's my mom" You see, my relationship with my daughter has been strained over the last couple of years. I have had to fight hard and stand in faith to believe for her own healing and deliverance. She is the reason why we attend the ministry that we have been faithful members of for the last 6 years. I conceived my daughter when I was just becoming an adult at 20 years old. I was a single mom, working for minimum wage and trying to keep things together. During that time, it was just survival mode. I didn't come to know the Lord until a year after she was born, and even then, I was not growing spiritually or in my relationship with God to even began to help me be a better mother. It wasn't until 4 years ago, that I learned how to be a Christian woman and mother.
I read that statement over and over again in her paper. And every time that I read it, the Holy Spirit just kept saying "these are her true feelings toward you." You see, I am mother who is standing in faith and believing for TOTAL surrenderance for my daughter. She has not walked away from the Lord, but there is still so much that she needs to allow him to heal in her life; choices and decisions that I made, that left her to feel rejected and disappointed. Unfortunately, when I was a single mother, and although, I worked hard to provide for her, there was one important element that was missing ... Nurture. I didn't nurture her! I didn't know how. My love was displayed through paying bills and making sure that I kept a roof over our head. I didn't know how to love her. When you become a mother, there are things that should have been imparted in you or transferred to you, during your own birthing and childhood to help you be a mom. I understand why the doctor's say that it's important for the mother to bond with her child early after giving birth; during the first few hours of that child's life. And although, I was happy to have her and be her mother, there was nothing for me to transfer, because, there was never anything transferred to me! My own relationship with mother was void of love, nurture and care.
My daughter and I have moved directions in our relationship (where I see hope), we have gone from being in a 'critical condition' state, to now being in 'ICU' intensive care unit. My entire focus is to love her unconditionally, nurture her, and care for her. That takes unconditional love and forgiveness. I PURPOSELY make the time to talk to her, ask to do her hair, FORGIVE her quickly if she hurts me, and just spend time with her. I am standing on the word that God gave me, our relationship will not be like that of mine with my own mother; we will have the relationship that breaks this generational curse between mothers and daughters that run through our blood line.
You see, there was a time, when my daughter would pen words on paper about me, but, they were not those of love and respect. During that time, when she was writing what I would call 'letters of hate' I was counteracting and writing 'letters of hope' in the pages of my journal. The Lord gave me a scripture: Jeremiah 31:17 "there is hope in the future, that, your children shall come back to their own land". I read my hope yesterday and I am continuing to stand on this word. My husband and I have done our best to not compromise on the things of God in living our lives and raising our children, and we are seeing fruit.
My look on the future, is not just getting her ready for college, I look at the fact that I have another opportunity and year to believe for her to have an encounter with the Lord. As a mother who is raising her family on a christian foundation, my greatest fear is not if she will become pregnant, make the wrong friends or whatever. It's that she will walk away from the Lord and not serve him. It's if she will gamble her purpose. A life with out God, is a life of destruction! But, today, my FAITH is elevated so high, and God receives all the Glory!
The easy thing to do would be to cut my losses and say that maybe she will and maybe she won't. But I am not joining the 'status quo' I am believing for better! I encourage you today, if you and your child; daughter or son, have fallen away from one another and you have lost hope. I am encouraging you to stand on Jeremiah 31:17. And I also want to encourage you to surrender yourself to the Lord, let HIM do a work in you. It is because of my own deliverance that I am able to be a better mom and an example to my children, and love and nurture them.
So there devil, the Lord's message has been delivered, and you are defeated!!! For every mother, daughter and woman, I am claiming victory for us all!
Remember, SURRENDER all...
Tynisha
In her own words she defined a woman as; having wisdom, loving the Lord with all of her heart, loving her husband and children and sacrificing for them, and being strong. She said "that's my mom" You see, my relationship with my daughter has been strained over the last couple of years. I have had to fight hard and stand in faith to believe for her own healing and deliverance. She is the reason why we attend the ministry that we have been faithful members of for the last 6 years. I conceived my daughter when I was just becoming an adult at 20 years old. I was a single mom, working for minimum wage and trying to keep things together. During that time, it was just survival mode. I didn't come to know the Lord until a year after she was born, and even then, I was not growing spiritually or in my relationship with God to even began to help me be a better mother. It wasn't until 4 years ago, that I learned how to be a Christian woman and mother.
I read that statement over and over again in her paper. And every time that I read it, the Holy Spirit just kept saying "these are her true feelings toward you." You see, I am mother who is standing in faith and believing for TOTAL surrenderance for my daughter. She has not walked away from the Lord, but there is still so much that she needs to allow him to heal in her life; choices and decisions that I made, that left her to feel rejected and disappointed. Unfortunately, when I was a single mother, and although, I worked hard to provide for her, there was one important element that was missing ... Nurture. I didn't nurture her! I didn't know how. My love was displayed through paying bills and making sure that I kept a roof over our head. I didn't know how to love her. When you become a mother, there are things that should have been imparted in you or transferred to you, during your own birthing and childhood to help you be a mom. I understand why the doctor's say that it's important for the mother to bond with her child early after giving birth; during the first few hours of that child's life. And although, I was happy to have her and be her mother, there was nothing for me to transfer, because, there was never anything transferred to me! My own relationship with mother was void of love, nurture and care.
My daughter and I have moved directions in our relationship (where I see hope), we have gone from being in a 'critical condition' state, to now being in 'ICU' intensive care unit. My entire focus is to love her unconditionally, nurture her, and care for her. That takes unconditional love and forgiveness. I PURPOSELY make the time to talk to her, ask to do her hair, FORGIVE her quickly if she hurts me, and just spend time with her. I am standing on the word that God gave me, our relationship will not be like that of mine with my own mother; we will have the relationship that breaks this generational curse between mothers and daughters that run through our blood line.
You see, there was a time, when my daughter would pen words on paper about me, but, they were not those of love and respect. During that time, when she was writing what I would call 'letters of hate' I was counteracting and writing 'letters of hope' in the pages of my journal. The Lord gave me a scripture: Jeremiah 31:17 "there is hope in the future, that, your children shall come back to their own land". I read my hope yesterday and I am continuing to stand on this word. My husband and I have done our best to not compromise on the things of God in living our lives and raising our children, and we are seeing fruit.
My look on the future, is not just getting her ready for college, I look at the fact that I have another opportunity and year to believe for her to have an encounter with the Lord. As a mother who is raising her family on a christian foundation, my greatest fear is not if she will become pregnant, make the wrong friends or whatever. It's that she will walk away from the Lord and not serve him. It's if she will gamble her purpose. A life with out God, is a life of destruction! But, today, my FAITH is elevated so high, and God receives all the Glory!
The easy thing to do would be to cut my losses and say that maybe she will and maybe she won't. But I am not joining the 'status quo' I am believing for better! I encourage you today, if you and your child; daughter or son, have fallen away from one another and you have lost hope. I am encouraging you to stand on Jeremiah 31:17. And I also want to encourage you to surrender yourself to the Lord, let HIM do a work in you. It is because of my own deliverance that I am able to be a better mom and an example to my children, and love and nurture them.
So there devil, the Lord's message has been delivered, and you are defeated!!! For every mother, daughter and woman, I am claiming victory for us all!
Remember, SURRENDER all...
Tynisha
Comments
Post a Comment
"Join Me on this Journey, Share Your Words of Encouragement"