I am gaining more and more of an understanding of how important it is to fill your mind with complete thoughts. From the moment you wake up; you can be hit with a situation, that, if you have not filled yourself with positive thoughts and energy; you can set a negative tone for the rest of your day. Yesterday, I started feeling sick. This flu, cold bug, virus, or whatever is going around has crept its way into our home (starting with my little one)... AGAIN! During the day, I was feeling fine, I was in good spirits; I caught a movie with a good friend, came home prepared dinner, and ran a bath for my husband (he had been working out in the bitter cold weather all day). Things were going well. But then, towards the evening I started to become edgy and any little thing was starting to irritate me. I could feel my immune system starting to get low. So, I rushed through cleaning the kitchen and getting the boys ready for bed. As I prepped myself for bed, I realized that, I had not read my daily devotion for the day. So I got into it; I definitely didn't want to go to bed feeling the way that I did. I'm so thankful for God's word; in my devotion, it reminded me how the Lord's presence needs to be my focal point, and acknowledging the fact that he is with me at all times, makes every moment meaningful. It was the encouragement that I needed.
I am always amazed how we as women are made up and function; are emotions are always on the surface. The way we process things; we do it with our emotions. The way we handle things; we do it with our emotions. The way we communicate; we do it with our emotions. Now, depending on how in tact our emotions are, will determine the way we do these things. I don't like being sick (I'm sure no one does). So for me, I'm irritated because I now have to deal with trying to get well and maintain everything else that is going on around me. My energy is low, and productivity is at a minimal. And all I can think about, is, the days of ahead; what needs to be done, who is counting on me for something, what things will fall to the waist-side because I can't get to them; and the cycle goes on and on.
This morning I woke up, not really saying much to anyone. I didn't necessarily have an attitude, but, I just wasn't ready to interact yet. I was feeling weak and I wasn't all that motivated to return back to work today (after being off the last 2 days). My husband gave me his usual goodbye kiss and hug, and then another kiss; because he said I looked sad and he wanted me to have a good day. This man knows me, like he knows the back of his hand. He could tell, that, my day today could go any way.
So as I am preparing a cup of tea to take with me, I am looking for a specific cup. I am the type of person, if I have my mind set on something; that's what I want. As I'm looking for this cup, my EMOTIONS begin to flare up. I find the top, but, not the cup. So, I am asking my daughter who is already in the car, has she seen the cup. She gets out to help look for it. While I am looking for this cup, all I could think was; my husband has the cup and he left the top. I talking to myself, "he knows I don't like when he does that." Why did he take my cup?" And, this cup better not be in his car, sitting there ... dirty." I mean, I am just going on and on with these crazy thoughts. Stirring up emotions! My poor husband isn't even here to defend himself. So my daughter says, "here it is!" Had I taken the time to really look for the cup (instead up getting my emotions in an uproar) and move things around in the cabinet, I would have seen the cup.
Now! yes, I found the cup and yes I was able to use it for my tea. But, the problem was not solved. During this escapade, I was blaming my husband the entire time. I allowed myself to get mad at him for something he was not even aware of and didn't do. If I wanted to keep this situation all about me, I could have moved passed this because the cup was found. And there was a time, I would have done that. But, I needed to HUMBLE myself and tell me husband what I did and ask for his forgiveness. This also helps me to stay accountable when it comes to my pride. In order to keep certain behavior in tact, it can't be hidden. So, I sent my husband a text, telling him about this crazy scenario and asked him for his forgiveness. He gladly obliged. But, for me, the situation still wasn't over, I am so thankful that I went to bed on that devotion! What residue is still in me regarding my husband, that immediately took me to the place to blame him? There is some unforgiveness there. Unforgiveness doesn't always have to be attached to some huge event or situation. You see, I was always quick to blame my husband for something; little silly things; I'm out of windshield-wiper fluid in my car; it must have been my husband because he drove it last, the light blew out in the bathroom, it must have been him, he was the last one in there. Whatever it was, he was the offender. My husband and I have forgiven each other for a lot and it has made a marriage stronger. But, I believe that things will take place, to reveal things that still need to be resolved. I shouldn't have been so quick to blame him this morning. And instead of finding an excuse in my emotions to justify my feelings; I'm going to take the high road, humble myself, and go before the Lord today and ask him to reveal to me; why those feelings towards my husband are still there. It is by HIS Grace anyway, that I am able to recognize and resolve things like this.
Maybe there is an person in your life who takes the heat for everything that goes wrong. Maybe, you don't always fill yourself with positive things such as; daily devotions, prayer; and you find yourself handling things the wrong way. But, you can recognize that there are things about you that need to change. I encourage you; continue the process of change, humble yourself, and move about in HIS Grace!
Remember, surrender all ...
Tynisha
I am always amazed how we as women are made up and function; are emotions are always on the surface. The way we process things; we do it with our emotions. The way we handle things; we do it with our emotions. The way we communicate; we do it with our emotions. Now, depending on how in tact our emotions are, will determine the way we do these things. I don't like being sick (I'm sure no one does). So for me, I'm irritated because I now have to deal with trying to get well and maintain everything else that is going on around me. My energy is low, and productivity is at a minimal. And all I can think about, is, the days of ahead; what needs to be done, who is counting on me for something, what things will fall to the waist-side because I can't get to them; and the cycle goes on and on.
This morning I woke up, not really saying much to anyone. I didn't necessarily have an attitude, but, I just wasn't ready to interact yet. I was feeling weak and I wasn't all that motivated to return back to work today (after being off the last 2 days). My husband gave me his usual goodbye kiss and hug, and then another kiss; because he said I looked sad and he wanted me to have a good day. This man knows me, like he knows the back of his hand. He could tell, that, my day today could go any way.
So as I am preparing a cup of tea to take with me, I am looking for a specific cup. I am the type of person, if I have my mind set on something; that's what I want. As I'm looking for this cup, my EMOTIONS begin to flare up. I find the top, but, not the cup. So, I am asking my daughter who is already in the car, has she seen the cup. She gets out to help look for it. While I am looking for this cup, all I could think was; my husband has the cup and he left the top. I talking to myself, "he knows I don't like when he does that." Why did he take my cup?" And, this cup better not be in his car, sitting there ... dirty." I mean, I am just going on and on with these crazy thoughts. Stirring up emotions! My poor husband isn't even here to defend himself. So my daughter says, "here it is!" Had I taken the time to really look for the cup (instead up getting my emotions in an uproar) and move things around in the cabinet, I would have seen the cup.
Now! yes, I found the cup and yes I was able to use it for my tea. But, the problem was not solved. During this escapade, I was blaming my husband the entire time. I allowed myself to get mad at him for something he was not even aware of and didn't do. If I wanted to keep this situation all about me, I could have moved passed this because the cup was found. And there was a time, I would have done that. But, I needed to HUMBLE myself and tell me husband what I did and ask for his forgiveness. This also helps me to stay accountable when it comes to my pride. In order to keep certain behavior in tact, it can't be hidden. So, I sent my husband a text, telling him about this crazy scenario and asked him for his forgiveness. He gladly obliged. But, for me, the situation still wasn't over, I am so thankful that I went to bed on that devotion! What residue is still in me regarding my husband, that immediately took me to the place to blame him? There is some unforgiveness there. Unforgiveness doesn't always have to be attached to some huge event or situation. You see, I was always quick to blame my husband for something; little silly things; I'm out of windshield-wiper fluid in my car; it must have been my husband because he drove it last, the light blew out in the bathroom, it must have been him, he was the last one in there. Whatever it was, he was the offender. My husband and I have forgiven each other for a lot and it has made a marriage stronger. But, I believe that things will take place, to reveal things that still need to be resolved. I shouldn't have been so quick to blame him this morning. And instead of finding an excuse in my emotions to justify my feelings; I'm going to take the high road, humble myself, and go before the Lord today and ask him to reveal to me; why those feelings towards my husband are still there. It is by HIS Grace anyway, that I am able to recognize and resolve things like this.
Maybe there is an person in your life who takes the heat for everything that goes wrong. Maybe, you don't always fill yourself with positive things such as; daily devotions, prayer; and you find yourself handling things the wrong way. But, you can recognize that there are things about you that need to change. I encourage you; continue the process of change, humble yourself, and move about in HIS Grace!
Remember, surrender all ...
Tynisha
I needed this one! OMG!
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