Yesterday was my first day back to work from a 2 1/2 week winter break. The day went longer than expected, but not for bad reasons. My husband made it home before me and the kids. That morning, I had taken out some meat for dinner. When I got home, I expected that he had already prepared the meat and put it in the oven since he got there first ... that was not the case. Immediately I became irritated. I just jumped right into preparing dinner and my only greeting to him was " you couldn't have prepared the meat!"
You see, I EXPECTED him to do something that he was not even aware of. Normally, I would have sent him a text and asked him to start dinner. And although I thought about doing that, I didn't. I just expected he would do it. My husband is a very routine person, which helps to keep balance in our marriage. He didn't prepare the meat, not because he could care less about dinner, or because he didn't want to help out. He also knows that type of wife that he has (very organized and systematic), and his thoughts were that maybe I had other intentions for it. He is use to me sending him a text asking him to do something, that is our routine with one another. But because I didn't follow through on my thoughts, I got myself all worked up, because of my expectations.
You see, we all have expectations. We have expectations of how people should treat us, what they should say, how they do their job, so on and so on. We not only have expectations of our spouses and coworkers, but of our children too. Expectations can strain a relationship and even at times bring it to a ruin! It can also separate us from reality. My expectations made me feel like my husband didn't want to help, but in reality, he was not sure of what was needed.
The Lord corrected me last night and showed me, that I was in error. I expected my husband to think and act like me. And because those expectations were not met, my feelings were hurt, I felt REJECTED.
Which leads me to my next point. If you have or do suffer from rejection for whatever reason, you are prone to being disappointed, let down, and even hurt. Rejection puts you in a sensitive state; you are always on the defense, your point and opinion is the only correct one, and you put up walls that prevent you from flowing in and enjoying healthy relationships. Because the Lord has uprooted rejection from my life, it was easy to receive correction from the Lord and apologize to my husband and ask for his forgiveness.
Today, I encourage you to think about EXPECTATIONS. What expectations do you have; for yourself, spouse, kids, friends, coworkers, or other individuals that you interact with? Is rejection lingering in the balance of your life and what is it preventing you from:
Remember surrender all, be blessed.
Tynisha
You see, I EXPECTED him to do something that he was not even aware of. Normally, I would have sent him a text and asked him to start dinner. And although I thought about doing that, I didn't. I just expected he would do it. My husband is a very routine person, which helps to keep balance in our marriage. He didn't prepare the meat, not because he could care less about dinner, or because he didn't want to help out. He also knows that type of wife that he has (very organized and systematic), and his thoughts were that maybe I had other intentions for it. He is use to me sending him a text asking him to do something, that is our routine with one another. But because I didn't follow through on my thoughts, I got myself all worked up, because of my expectations.
You see, we all have expectations. We have expectations of how people should treat us, what they should say, how they do their job, so on and so on. We not only have expectations of our spouses and coworkers, but of our children too. Expectations can strain a relationship and even at times bring it to a ruin! It can also separate us from reality. My expectations made me feel like my husband didn't want to help, but in reality, he was not sure of what was needed.
The Lord corrected me last night and showed me, that I was in error. I expected my husband to think and act like me. And because those expectations were not met, my feelings were hurt, I felt REJECTED.
Which leads me to my next point. If you have or do suffer from rejection for whatever reason, you are prone to being disappointed, let down, and even hurt. Rejection puts you in a sensitive state; you are always on the defense, your point and opinion is the only correct one, and you put up walls that prevent you from flowing in and enjoying healthy relationships. Because the Lord has uprooted rejection from my life, it was easy to receive correction from the Lord and apologize to my husband and ask for his forgiveness.
Today, I encourage you to think about EXPECTATIONS. What expectations do you have; for yourself, spouse, kids, friends, coworkers, or other individuals that you interact with? Is rejection lingering in the balance of your life and what is it preventing you from:
Remember surrender all, be blessed.
Tynisha
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