Today has been a day of regrouping and recuperating, from a long weekend. The goal was to bring all the busyness to a halt. The majority of the day was spent resting in my bed and taking required breaks to attend to sibling chaos. I have mentioned in earlier posts how the Lord has been ministering to me regarding my role as a mom. My daughter will be 17 soon and my middle child will be turning 8. They both are going to experience some change and transition in their lives in the next year; my daughter will graduate high school and transition to college. My son will be promoted to another grade and transition into the role of the oldest sibling. I will need to help him be an example to his little brother, and help him understand what that means.
I have pulled on my daughter a lot when it comes to helping me out with maintaining our home and helping me with the boys ... she has truly been a blessing. Her support has allowed me to balance things. You see, it's easy to solicit the help of others and even benefit from their support. However, you must recognize when the support is no longer needed. When you have several children ; older and younger, and the older child is mature and talented like my child is, you can become comfortable with their ongoing support in things. The down-side of that is; you take them out of the role of being a kid/teenager; and you now put them in the role of an adult. I'm thankful that my daughter knows how to take care of her younger siblings, and does it will. She knows how to cook and clean and think through situations. She will make a good wife and maintain her home well. I'm thankful I have been able to teach her these things. However, today she is in a place in her life where she needs me to impart things into her that will launch her into womanhood. It is also good for my boys to have their older sister and bond with her as their sibling and not the assistant to mom. I have also found my daughter feeling the need to admonish them; she doesn't need to be in that role, and it also compromises the authority of me and my husband as parents.
So as I took this day of rest, the Lord ministered to me about releasing my daughter from certain responsibilities and expanding myself full throttle in being a mom. I can't be hesitant or fearful to operate in this role, no matter how intimidating it may seem. I have to trust the Lord that I can do this and even during the times that I fail, HE will be there to redirect me. For years I have treaded lightly in my role as mom; fearing I couldn't do it or thinking I didn't have anything to offer. But today, I have the faith to step out and function completely. Believe it or not, I find myself getting upset now, when my daughter has made breakfast or gotten the boys dressed. Not because I don't want her to help; but, because, I have that conviction to take care of things as their mother. I want my children to have full access of me as their mother. I am thankful for the Holy Spirit in my life and ushering me through the different stages of life. I'm surrendering to the Lord and receiving HIS grace to help me maneuver and be the mom they need and deserve.
Remember, surrender all ...
Tynisha
I have pulled on my daughter a lot when it comes to helping me out with maintaining our home and helping me with the boys ... she has truly been a blessing. Her support has allowed me to balance things. You see, it's easy to solicit the help of others and even benefit from their support. However, you must recognize when the support is no longer needed. When you have several children ; older and younger, and the older child is mature and talented like my child is, you can become comfortable with their ongoing support in things. The down-side of that is; you take them out of the role of being a kid/teenager; and you now put them in the role of an adult. I'm thankful that my daughter knows how to take care of her younger siblings, and does it will. She knows how to cook and clean and think through situations. She will make a good wife and maintain her home well. I'm thankful I have been able to teach her these things. However, today she is in a place in her life where she needs me to impart things into her that will launch her into womanhood. It is also good for my boys to have their older sister and bond with her as their sibling and not the assistant to mom. I have also found my daughter feeling the need to admonish them; she doesn't need to be in that role, and it also compromises the authority of me and my husband as parents.
So as I took this day of rest, the Lord ministered to me about releasing my daughter from certain responsibilities and expanding myself full throttle in being a mom. I can't be hesitant or fearful to operate in this role, no matter how intimidating it may seem. I have to trust the Lord that I can do this and even during the times that I fail, HE will be there to redirect me. For years I have treaded lightly in my role as mom; fearing I couldn't do it or thinking I didn't have anything to offer. But today, I have the faith to step out and function completely. Believe it or not, I find myself getting upset now, when my daughter has made breakfast or gotten the boys dressed. Not because I don't want her to help; but, because, I have that conviction to take care of things as their mother. I want my children to have full access of me as their mother. I am thankful for the Holy Spirit in my life and ushering me through the different stages of life. I'm surrendering to the Lord and receiving HIS grace to help me maneuver and be the mom they need and deserve.
Remember, surrender all ...
Tynisha
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