Today, all across the world, people are celebrating Valentine's Day. Hollywood is spending thousands of dollars renting out restaurants, buying expensive jewelry, in the real-world; husbands our sending their wives flowers at work, and ladies are getting their hair and nails done for a night out on the town. It will be an exciting day. A day filled with romance, happiness, and love.
Today I am reflecting on love. I am thankful for a day that has been carved out, for individuals to express their love to one another a little more than they would on any other day. But, I don't put this day above any other day. For me, I am going about this day, thanking the Lord, that I can tell my husband "Happy Valentine's Day" and it is said with meaning and love. For my husband and I, who have been married for 11 years, celebrating today is a miracle. Not because one of us almost past away, or had taken very ill. But, because there was a time in our marriage that we had fallen out of love with one another. Sure, we loved each other, but there was a time we were not in love with each other. Valentine's Day and any day for that matter, was a day when are hearts were not turned towards each other. And the days when things were decent enough to attempt to celebrate, it wasn't heart-felt, it was just being done out of routine. I didn't want a gift for the sake of just giving, or just to say you did it. It wasn't about me being able to call up one of my girls and tell her what I got. For me, it could have just been a hand-written note, an embracing hug, an attempt to make things right. I wanted a day when I was not holding a grudge against my husband, or allowing my bitterness and unforgiveness to overshadow the moment.
So today, for me, I'm grateful and thankful first to the Lord for all that HE has done in my husband and I, and for saving our marriage. I'm thankful that my husband and I have chosen to forgive each other, and that we have fallen in love with each other all over again. That out hearts are not harden anymore. Our love today is not based on conditions or forced. It spills out of our hearts and it's genuine. I didn't wake up this morning expecting a gift or trying to see if he did better than the year before; I actually woke up and there was no gift, and because we were all running late this morning; we ended up saying Happy Valentine's Day by text ... and I am okay with that. Tonight we will celebrate as a couple at our church's weekend marriage conference. And when I sit at that table with him tonight, I am just going to sit in the moment thanking the Lord for this man. Thanking Him that in our darkest hours, HE held us together, thanking Him, that HIS love for us, showed us how to love one another.
So while giving gifts and showing expression is appropriate for today, take a moment and reflect on you and your spouse and where you are today. Reflect on how God's love is the life-line that your marriage needs. Reflect on the fact that you and your husband are standing here on this earth and you have another opportunity to fall in love with each other all over again. Don't let today, just be a day. The only day that you share heart-felt "I love yous" The day you talk nice to one another and argue in the morning. The day you give a gift and keep reminding that person over and over again what you did. But let today be a day, that will last forever. The day when you turn to the Lord for HIS love and you are then able to transfer that love to your spouse. Let today be the day when you fall in love all over again!
Remember, surrender all ...
Tynisha
Today I am reflecting on love. I am thankful for a day that has been carved out, for individuals to express their love to one another a little more than they would on any other day. But, I don't put this day above any other day. For me, I am going about this day, thanking the Lord, that I can tell my husband "Happy Valentine's Day" and it is said with meaning and love. For my husband and I, who have been married for 11 years, celebrating today is a miracle. Not because one of us almost past away, or had taken very ill. But, because there was a time in our marriage that we had fallen out of love with one another. Sure, we loved each other, but there was a time we were not in love with each other. Valentine's Day and any day for that matter, was a day when are hearts were not turned towards each other. And the days when things were decent enough to attempt to celebrate, it wasn't heart-felt, it was just being done out of routine. I didn't want a gift for the sake of just giving, or just to say you did it. It wasn't about me being able to call up one of my girls and tell her what I got. For me, it could have just been a hand-written note, an embracing hug, an attempt to make things right. I wanted a day when I was not holding a grudge against my husband, or allowing my bitterness and unforgiveness to overshadow the moment.
So today, for me, I'm grateful and thankful first to the Lord for all that HE has done in my husband and I, and for saving our marriage. I'm thankful that my husband and I have chosen to forgive each other, and that we have fallen in love with each other all over again. That out hearts are not harden anymore. Our love today is not based on conditions or forced. It spills out of our hearts and it's genuine. I didn't wake up this morning expecting a gift or trying to see if he did better than the year before; I actually woke up and there was no gift, and because we were all running late this morning; we ended up saying Happy Valentine's Day by text ... and I am okay with that. Tonight we will celebrate as a couple at our church's weekend marriage conference. And when I sit at that table with him tonight, I am just going to sit in the moment thanking the Lord for this man. Thanking Him that in our darkest hours, HE held us together, thanking Him, that HIS love for us, showed us how to love one another.
So while giving gifts and showing expression is appropriate for today, take a moment and reflect on you and your spouse and where you are today. Reflect on how God's love is the life-line that your marriage needs. Reflect on the fact that you and your husband are standing here on this earth and you have another opportunity to fall in love with each other all over again. Don't let today, just be a day. The only day that you share heart-felt "I love yous" The day you talk nice to one another and argue in the morning. The day you give a gift and keep reminding that person over and over again what you did. But let today be a day, that will last forever. The day when you turn to the Lord for HIS love and you are then able to transfer that love to your spouse. Let today be the day when you fall in love all over again!
Remember, surrender all ...
Tynisha
Wow! You definitely have a gift for being so open... that will help MANY people make it through. God bless you, Tynisha!
ReplyDeleteI once heard TD Jakes mention that someone doing anything for 50 yrs was most likely not happy about it every minute of everyday -- he continued by saying that there were plenty of divorced people in the crowd that could agree with him. I've been married for more than a dozen years... I know that God's love that can carry couples through.
Walk out what God has shown you! You are BLESSED!
Hello M, thank you for your support to my blog and your words or encouragement. My transparency is truly to give God the Glory. When we allow Him to do a work in us and our lives, we can't be selfish and cover up His Glory! You are right, God's love is unfailing and it will always carry us through. Be blessed.
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