(Re-posted from April, 30, 2014)... But God! As I end this series of post on marriage, I pray that you
have been encouraged and blessed by what the Lord has done in our
marriage and can do in your marriage. As I continue to reflect on the
11 years that my husband and I have been married; I can't say that I saw
the day that our marriage would be healed and restored. It was hard for
me to have the faith to believe just day to day.
The ministry that we are faithful and dedicated members of, has had a lot of influence on our marriage. Our pastors are 2 God-fearing Christians who live by Biblical principles through transparency. Their marriage has been an example and model for our marriage and so many others. They will tell you that they do not have the perfect marriage and like any other married couple they have had their fair share of struggles, but in that, they have always remained in agreement and have always believed God for better. Their faith is the pillars for our ministry, the vision, and the people. I am grateful for their continual support and love, as they have had to stand with my husband and I, not only for our marriage, but for our family! My husband and I learned over these last 3 years when the Lord begun working in us and in our marriage, that, some things you can't do alone. You need the wisdom and counsel (Biblical counsel) of those that show the fruit of the Lord in every area of their life. The blessing of God on their lives and their children lives is a reflection of God's unfailing power. We thank the Lord for our pastors and we thank our pastors praying for us, standing in faith for our marriage and family, keeping us accountable and ministering the TRUE word of the Lord.
My husband and I got to a place where we chose to love each other pass the hurt and disappointment and take off the pressure of meeting unreachable expectations. We are learning how to have healthy arguments where we agree to agree and we are not afraid of going into the danger zones with one another; knowing that the ultimate goal is to be in agreement. I show my husband more affection. I struggled with self-esteem issues for years; being small, short and petite doesn't always mean that you are happy with your physical appearance. It was hard for me to get dress (or undress for that matter) in front of my husband. I really had to get to a place where I was comfortable with myself and even though every now and then, that skeleton will still try to pop up, receiving my husband's love for me makes me feel secure. I love wearing my hair short and even though my husband prefers long hair, he has become more open-minded to it. And he recognizes that I feel at my best with it. We have learned to compromise with one another and support one another, even if the other person may not see the big picture. We recognized God's perception of marriage and His will and plan for us as husband and wife.
I have learned how to take my rightful place in our marriage and be in position on the side of him and not in front of him. And during the times when I struggle, get anxious and want to take things into my own hands, I have become sensitive enough to the Holy Spirit that I take heed to the conviction. Our marriage is not perfect and we still have the journey to make, but, we are definitely not where we use to be. During this restoring of our marriage, we are learning who the other person truly is; our strengths and weaknesses, our victories and short-comings and our dreams and aspirations and the other one is included in those dreams. We have recognized what they Lord has done in both of us and the work He is continuing to complete. Last year, I remember being at my son's school program and the Holy Spirit prompted me to look over at my husband; He showed me that my husband was a different man; he looked different (even more attractive than the first time we met), he showed me how my husband carried strength and honor (both in the Lord). My husband was a different man and he needed a different wife. He leads our family differently; he makes sure we are safe and provided for. He guards me as his wife and makes me feel like I am the only woman in the world. He steers our children under the guidance of the Lord and our home functions on Biblical principles.
Today, maybe you and your spouse are still in the beginning stages and you are just trying to keep together what the Lord has joined. Maybe you are at that hour; your hour of decision time; the hour that you choose to let go and let God, the hour you choose to forgive and allow the Lord to heal your broken heart, the hour that you count your disappointments as blessings. Or maybe today, you are where my husband and I are; falling in love with each other all over again, enjoying each others company, laughing with one another, sleeping closely to one another and not in separate rooms, thanking the Lord for each other, holding hands and not pointing the finger, serving in ministry together with our children and honoring the Lord with our marriage. Whatever state your marriage may be in, trust God! Get out of the way so the Lord can get in. Humble yourself and honor God with your marriage. Get under the covering of a ministry and leadership that is God-focused and is leading you by truth. Believe for better. Love again and again! Apologize! Sacrifice for one another, support one another, hold and comfort each other and most importantly ...
Surrender, ALL!!!
Tynisha
The ministry that we are faithful and dedicated members of, has had a lot of influence on our marriage. Our pastors are 2 God-fearing Christians who live by Biblical principles through transparency. Their marriage has been an example and model for our marriage and so many others. They will tell you that they do not have the perfect marriage and like any other married couple they have had their fair share of struggles, but in that, they have always remained in agreement and have always believed God for better. Their faith is the pillars for our ministry, the vision, and the people. I am grateful for their continual support and love, as they have had to stand with my husband and I, not only for our marriage, but for our family! My husband and I learned over these last 3 years when the Lord begun working in us and in our marriage, that, some things you can't do alone. You need the wisdom and counsel (Biblical counsel) of those that show the fruit of the Lord in every area of their life. The blessing of God on their lives and their children lives is a reflection of God's unfailing power. We thank the Lord for our pastors and we thank our pastors praying for us, standing in faith for our marriage and family, keeping us accountable and ministering the TRUE word of the Lord.
My husband and I got to a place where we chose to love each other pass the hurt and disappointment and take off the pressure of meeting unreachable expectations. We are learning how to have healthy arguments where we agree to agree and we are not afraid of going into the danger zones with one another; knowing that the ultimate goal is to be in agreement. I show my husband more affection. I struggled with self-esteem issues for years; being small, short and petite doesn't always mean that you are happy with your physical appearance. It was hard for me to get dress (or undress for that matter) in front of my husband. I really had to get to a place where I was comfortable with myself and even though every now and then, that skeleton will still try to pop up, receiving my husband's love for me makes me feel secure. I love wearing my hair short and even though my husband prefers long hair, he has become more open-minded to it. And he recognizes that I feel at my best with it. We have learned to compromise with one another and support one another, even if the other person may not see the big picture. We recognized God's perception of marriage and His will and plan for us as husband and wife.
I have learned how to take my rightful place in our marriage and be in position on the side of him and not in front of him. And during the times when I struggle, get anxious and want to take things into my own hands, I have become sensitive enough to the Holy Spirit that I take heed to the conviction. Our marriage is not perfect and we still have the journey to make, but, we are definitely not where we use to be. During this restoring of our marriage, we are learning who the other person truly is; our strengths and weaknesses, our victories and short-comings and our dreams and aspirations and the other one is included in those dreams. We have recognized what they Lord has done in both of us and the work He is continuing to complete. Last year, I remember being at my son's school program and the Holy Spirit prompted me to look over at my husband; He showed me that my husband was a different man; he looked different (even more attractive than the first time we met), he showed me how my husband carried strength and honor (both in the Lord). My husband was a different man and he needed a different wife. He leads our family differently; he makes sure we are safe and provided for. He guards me as his wife and makes me feel like I am the only woman in the world. He steers our children under the guidance of the Lord and our home functions on Biblical principles.
Today, maybe you and your spouse are still in the beginning stages and you are just trying to keep together what the Lord has joined. Maybe you are at that hour; your hour of decision time; the hour that you choose to let go and let God, the hour you choose to forgive and allow the Lord to heal your broken heart, the hour that you count your disappointments as blessings. Or maybe today, you are where my husband and I are; falling in love with each other all over again, enjoying each others company, laughing with one another, sleeping closely to one another and not in separate rooms, thanking the Lord for each other, holding hands and not pointing the finger, serving in ministry together with our children and honoring the Lord with our marriage. Whatever state your marriage may be in, trust God! Get out of the way so the Lord can get in. Humble yourself and honor God with your marriage. Get under the covering of a ministry and leadership that is God-focused and is leading you by truth. Believe for better. Love again and again! Apologize! Sacrifice for one another, support one another, hold and comfort each other and most importantly ...
Surrender, ALL!!!
Tynisha
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